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I Took The Long Way Home

The events in my life are responsible for shaping me in so many ways, however only recently did I come to realize that my reaction to those things is what truly shaped me … and held me back from actually living. It’s amazing to look back at your life and see the time wasted, the things screwed-up and opportunities that were just simply squandered.

Triumph, however, is realizing that you have the choice to change that, starting today. I’ve vowed to live my life by touching others now. Through writing, teaching and sharing I hope that my stories and my years of misery (brought on by myself) will help others to realize that life can and will go on as soon as you decide that it will. God speed. May you find your way ‘home’ too.

The words to the song are posted below. How wise are they!

So you think you’re a Romeo
playing a part in a picture-show
Take the long way home
Take the long way home

Cos you’re the joke of the neighborhood
Why should you care if you’re feeling good
Take the long way home
Take the long way home

But there are times that you feel you’re part of the scenery
all the greenery is comin’ down, boy
And then your wife seems to think you’re part of the
furniture oh, it’s peculiar, she used to be so nice.

When lonely days turn to lonely nights
you take a trip to the city lights
And take the long way home
Take the long way home

You never see what you want to see
Forever playing to the gallery
You take the long way home
Take the long way home

And when you’re up on the stage, it’s so unbelievable,
unforgettable, how they adore you,
But then your wife seems to think you’re losing your sanity,
oh, calamity, is there no way out?

Does it feel that you life’s become a catastrophe?
Oh, it has to be for you to grow, boy.
When you look through the years and see what you could
have been oh, what might have been,
if you’d had more time.

So, when the day comes to settle down,
Who’s to blame if you’re not around?
You took the long way home
You took the long way home………..

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Seeing, Hearing and (Truly) Healing A Love

Sometimes this is what it looks like and you wonder how to heal it. It’s still love, no matter how you look at it.

Matthew 13:13-15

This is why I speak to them in parables: “Though seeing, they do not see; though hearing, they do not hear or understand.”

In them is fulfilled the prophecy of Isaiah:

“‘You will be ever hearing but never understanding;
you will be ever seeing but never perceiving.

For this people’s heart has become calloused;
they hardly hear with their ears,
and they have closed their eyes.
Otherwise they might see with their eyes,
hear with their ears,
understand with their hearts
and turn, and I would heal them.


I have taken to reading this often and it speaks to me in volumes. I’ve been so blind for so long. I’m not anymore. My eyes are honestly seeing you and my ears are honestly hearing you and my heart is honestly feeling you.

Sometimes life lets us down because we have this fantasy of how things are supposed to be. We think that we should be able to change anything that we want and that we should be able to tackle ten things at one time. The truth is, the reality is, some people can and some people can’t. When you accept who you are and what your own personal limitations are, then you can start loving yourself exactly for what you are. Then He can heal you.

We sometimes think that we’ll find a perfect person for us and everything will be this fairy tale of romance and love. The reality is that real love isn’t a fantasy or fairy tale, it takes work. Love is flawed because people are inherently flawed. When we accept this, then love, also can be healed.

Know, with your heart, that I love you more than you can possibly begin to measure – but my love doesn’t come with chains and expectations. I’m here for you but I won’t demand or expect from you. The world does enough of that and I DO understand.

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