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Waiting On The World To Change

We Are Always Where We Are Supposed To Be Each Moment of Each Day

I had some fantastic conversations with people over the last month. Many people might argue that the last month was a very bad one for me. Honestly, I’ve had worse and I have had so many things that have taught me about perspective over the last year that I don’t see it that way at all. In fact, I view it as an opportunity to look deeper at the situation and take the chance I’ve been given to make a change.

Let’s take a look at things from a different perspective. A month ago, I found myself stuck in the parking lot at a Walmart in an area of town that wasn’t perfect but it was close to the plasma center where I could donate plasma for a few bucks here and there when I needed cash. I was close to food, gas and all the necessities I could want. I stayed there a month. I’d make my way to the Pilot station a couple miles away when I could afford the gas. I’d pay $10 and take a shower and wash my clothes. Then I’d make my way back to Walmart. I sat in the McDonald’s and worked. I’ve written this blog and all my books from the road. Not one single word has been written from anywhere I would have called ‘home’ in any way. A remarkable feat perhaps? I’ve written 5 books this year and published them, all from restaurant tables and fast food booths.

Chick-Fil-A Management Proves They Really Do Suck

I think I am proof that you can overcome most any obstacles in life if you really want to. You can also make a difference in other lives, no matter how bad you have it in your own. For example, Shana was stuck at the McDonald’s when I arrived on the scene. She’d been living in her car since escaping an abusive boyfriend in Maine. She came back to FL only to find that her family had disowned her for running off with him to begin with. She’d had an alcohol problem so her family didn’t want her back in their lives. They lived right across town and left her there to suffer. One night, Chick-Fil-A had her car towed so she was without anything to sleep in or get around. She was totally stranded. I thought that they considered themselves a Christian owned company? I won’t get started since they hate my kind and I steer clear of them all together. This kid, in her 20’s was in a legitimate mess now.

I got to know her over sweet tea and sharing a booth to use our computers. I gave her my extra cell phone charger because it fit her phone and hers had been towed away in her car, along with all her clothes and possessions. I bought her a couple burgers one day when I friend of mine sent me fifty bucks and then refused to let me pay her back, claiming it was a Christmas present. God has been good to me. I’ve been blessed with good people. I used the money to buy her something to eat. I spoke to the manager at McDonald’s about the girl. He told me that she’d been there non-stop for two days and I explained to him that she was homeless and had no where to go. Would he mind letting her sleep in a booth overnight without hassling her? He graciously agreed and told me he felt terrible – had he known he would have told her how to get to the shelter. I took the information about the shelter. Shana had no way to get there and at the time, I had no gas or oil money to take her either.

The next night, I saw a cop and I approached her and talked to her about Shana. The cop was a great woman and I think that most cops are great people. They are there to help, not hassle. She told me that she would take Shana to the shelter herself. I went into McDonald’s and I talked to Shana, because I knew she was petrified of cops because of her previous history. I told her that they just wanted to help her. She hugged me and went with the cop to the shelter. That’s one kid off the street. I won’t say what I think about her family.

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Burr Redeems His Generation In My Eyes

A few days later, I met Burr. Mister “Thug” but he had the guts to come up and ask if he could sit with me so he could charge his cell phone. He was a perfect gentleman and I could tell he meant no harm whatsoever. He sat down and we ended-up having a fantastic conversation. This kid quoted Henry Ford and I told him all about Napoleon Hill and Andrew Carnegie. We talked business. Burr was fascinated with me working for myself and writing books. He was running his own resale business and operating by getting freebies from Craigslist and then taking them to a location and basically “yard selling” them for profit. Not a bad idea. I’d once thought of it myself. The things some people away are good! I was happy to have met this kid. I gave him some advice, he wrote down titles of books I suggested and I honestly felt better about the future of the world after talking to this fella.

Yesterday, I bumped into a couple who recognized me from another day they were in McDonald’s. I told them my story. We chatted about life in general. I’ve had AMAZING conversations with people young and old. I’ve learned something in the last month. We ALL want the same things. People just want to be happy. People are complaining and wanting peace and a better life than what we have now. There is an underlying agreement that treating others with more kindness is what is needed.

When Perfect Strangers Make You Weep

As I was getting ready to fix my oil leak, I stood in line and watched a woman struggling with her boxes. Things fell out of her cart. I helped her and two others moved to help. We all had a laugh in line. She mentioned that kindness today was so hard to find but seemed more genuine when you did find it. She said she was doing the 26 Random Acts of Kindness this year and had already paid for someone’s gas – $26 – just a couple of days before. She said the man looked down and out and looked just like her younger brother whom she hadn’t seen in a long time. She paid for his gas and she said he broke down and cried and hugged her. Then she cried. Everyone in line at Walmart was choked-up.

Why We Are Where We Are – Perspective!

This morning, my dog insisted on going the way he wanted when doing his morning business. He drug me onto the sight of a mattress in the woods, with a bottle of Mountain Dew sitting next to it. I realized that we’d stumbled across some homeless person’s sleep spot. Tomorrow morning, so I don’t run into them and embarrass anyone or put myself in any potential danger, I will leave off a bag of chips and another soda. If it is gone the next morning, I’ll leave more. If I am sure they are coming still, I will leave a blanket too.

You see, I believe that the way MY life is going is fine. I believe that I am where I am SUPPOSED TO BE. The fact that I need tires and have to stay here a few days to a week … well, that just means that I’m going to be needed here by someone. There’s important business at hand – changing the world.

In 2013, I implore you to look around yourself. Listen to the people around you. Someone close to you is suffering, I guarantee it. Step up to the plate, this is your chance to knock it out of the park. Take another look at your life. For example, if I’d just seen my oil leak as a huge and awful thing that was meant to just keep me down I could have easily become depressed. I could have sunk so low into my own grief that I might have become angry and grumpy with people. Instead, I chose to take a different perspective on it and look at what happened. Sometimes bad things happen for a reason, they really do! When you want to move on and you can’t, there is a reason that you are supposed to be where you are for the time being. Try saying “okay” and opening your eyes and ears, knowing that the opportunity to touch a life is in the works and you should get ready. I promise that it happens!

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Faith, Attitude and A Change of Perspective



Is your life spinning out of control? Have you found yourself wondering if you could possibly take any more? Don’t fret for you are not alone. The human condition is such that life is constantly throwing something at us, regardless of whether or not you think you can take anything else. Life’s lessons can surely be tough and painful. God knows that I’ve been hard-headed!  I can tell you some things from my own experience. If you ignore the lessons that you are supposed to learn, they will keep being hurled at you with such a force that eventually they completely knock you off your feet. After a while, it starts to hurt.

Perspective is everything. Life is a learning process and the goal is to learn. There’s no real destination or place that you are going. The journey is what you are here for! The normal state of living is one of flux and change. Whether you are a scientist or a creationist, you should be able to agree on this point. Why we are in constant flux may be different to each person, but again, it is about perspective.

For example, you go to the store, buy  a new inner tube for your bicycle, put it on the bike and air it up to the exact specifications on the box for psi. The moment you attempt to ride the bike, the tire goes flat because the inner tube is defective. You have two choices here. You can choose to let this ruin your day, be in a bad mood and swear and carry on – doing nothing but raising your own blood pressure. The other choice is to shrug it off, secure your bike and go ahead and walk to your destination, knowing that you’ve just been given an opportunity to stop and smell the flowers along the way. Perhaps your destiny today is to meet and talk with someone at the bus stop that is important or has a story that you need to hear. You see, when we open ourselves to the day to day lessons around us, our attitudes change as well.

This is exactly the way I started my day. I could have freaked out, but I chose not to. As a result, my day has been pleasant. I walked and had a great conversation with someone I may not have otherwise. I used to be that person, the one who over reacted and kicked the bike, fumed and swore until my blood boiled. In changing my perspective and viewing every single thing as an opportunity, I’ve taught myself to not get angry and not feel defeated. Defeat used to be my middle name. Now I’ve grown to understand that I am never defeated until I give up. When you give up on your own life, you begin to die. That is not a viable option, in my opinion.

Recently, I’ve come to understand that God tears us down and breaks us, in order to make us smarter and stronger. We cannot truly appreciate life and all that it has to offer until we have sometimes viewed just how bad it can be as well. God isn’t vindictive or mean, but He is a firm believer in letting you learn your own lessons. He will lead you but the choices are up to you. If you choose the path that leads away from Him, your lessons will gradually get tougher and tougher until you find your way back. To my amazement, after almost 30 years, He was still right there waiting on me to get it and come back.

I understand that not everyone is a believer in God. I do not preach and I don’t believe in being preached to either. I have my belief s and you may certainly have your own. The lessons are really the same though, no matter how you look at it. For even if you are an atheist, you must be able to agree that life is about learning and that if you continue to make the same mistakes over and over, then the mess that you create just gets bigger and bigger. This is just the way in which things work. I don’t care if you quote Newton or Jesus. Life has a very strange way of making sense if you can open yourself up to these things.

The cells in your body are hard at work right this moment. You are repairing skin cells and growing new tissues. Cells are being sloughed off of your body in the form of hair growing on your head and dry skin that is visible on your forearms. You are growing right in front of your very own eyes! It is never too late! You could stop smoking today and feel fantastic in a few weeks. Healthy, new, pink lung tissue will begin growing in days. In a few months you’ll feel as if you never even smoked.

Changing your attitude is a similar experience. Your brain cells are also working hard and you can turn your thoughts into tangible things that make and create changes in your body. A thought turns into electrical impulses that shoot through your brain. Thoughts are things! Just choosing to smile will actually tell your brain to release serotonin, which will help elevate your mood. Imagine that … just from choosing to smile.  A single thought…in the form of a choice, can change your day or even change your life.

When you are able to open your eyes fully and see things with a new perspective, you’ll be amazed at the doors that will open for you and more importantly, you will learn that you actually feel better. Your spirits will become lifted and you’ll look more and more forward to each new day. Let your life happen! Don’t try to control everything, for as surely as you do, something will happen to remind you that even the best of plans are not always meant to be. Allow for the spontaneous moments and keep your eyes open for the miracles that are happening all around you.

At any given moment you may be faced with a new choice. You’ll be faced with hundreds and possibly thousands of them today alone! Why not choose to do the things that make you feel good about your life? You are never defeated until the moment that you say that you are. You have the power to change how your story ends and it is never too late. Change a life today! Start with your own and watch how you influence others. Pay attention to the way that one positive outlook can become contagious. Grow and watch the world grow with you. Be thankful for what you have and don’t worry about what you don’t have. This is a choice you can make right this very moment. Above all else, remember to ~



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